And most probably you do too.
As mothers we always put huge amounts of pressure on ourselves to be ‘the perfect mother’ – just like the ‘perfect mothers’ that show up daily on our Instagram feeds, Pinterest, TV and parenting books. Don’t get me wrong I love Instagram and Pinterest and I think they are the perfect platforms for sharing/collecting photos and great inspiration.
There is no one perfect way to be a good mother. Each situation is unique. Each mother has different challenges, different skills and abilities, and certainly different children… What matters is that a mother loves her children deeply. – Elder M. Russel Ballard
We seem to be surrounded by super women that seem to have it all and are able to do it all! Sometimes it is easy to forget what makes us great mothers and concentrate on where we fall short or would like to improve. So let’s focus on the positives for a moment and be proud for all the little things we do right day after day
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I rock a being a Mum because…
- I am a patient Mum (most of the time).
- I endeavour to teach my children kindness and respect for all.
- I’m not afraid to give my children a time out or reprehend them if they have misbehaved because I believe they need to recognise acceptable and unacceptable behaviour.
- I’m their mother first and best friend second.
- My children are happy 98% of the time.
- No one knows my children as well as I do. I know which food they like and don’t like, which activities they would enjoy and which ones they would point black refuse to take part in, I know when they are about to kick off, when they are tired, I know which is their favourite book, song and colour…
- I always put my children’s needs before my own.
- My children are polite and have good manners.
- I show my kids affection constantly. There is never shortness of hugs, cuddles and kisses in our house.
- And most importantly, I love them unconditionally and I make sure they know it.
Like every mother I have good and bad days. Sometimes I wish I could hide away and others I wear my super mum cape proudly but I am a good mother and so are you.
Love, P
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I think that your list is a very strong one. Not many moms can claim the same as you have.#abrandnewday
aww this is lovely! I must admit my patience skills could do with improving, and the teen THINKS I am her friend first and mother 2nd something I constantly have to repeat to her lol – but yes overall, I think we all aren’t doing too badly 😉 #abrandnewday
You are a great Mum and thanks for the positivity! Great way to remind yourself, it can be so hard sometimes. As long as they are happy, healthy and loved that’s what counts #stayclassymama
Absolutely Catie, I couldn’t agree more x
I needed to read this today as it’s been pretty tough on the parenting front – you’re so right, mums can be very hard on themselves. I think I’m going to try and write a similar list at some point…. I like Mumzilla’s idea of turning this into a challenge! #TheList
I look forward to reading your list. Hope your day got better x
What a great idea to write a list of the things you are doing right, sometimes we need to sing our own praises! I’m struggling with feeling like a bit of a rubbish mum at the moment so I might try this xx
Louise you are an amazing mother going through a tough patch. Just take a good look at your kids. They are gorgeous and happy. X
Well done on being patient ; that’s my biggest struggle as its not a quality I have naturally . #stayclassy
I’m not patient all the time that would be inhuman right;) I try really hard and I think I’m getting better at it.
I have to remind myself constantly that my son is happy and healthy and that is enough! #ablogginggoodtime
There you go. You are definitely doing a good job. X
Such a brilliant post and although I read and shared a few days ago, just commenting to say it’s awesome and so are you! A lovely read at the end of a long day 🙂 xxx #triballove
Thank you xx
Yes, plenty of hugs, kisses, and cuddles! Such a great way to communicate our love for our kiddos!
Having read this I think I must rock as a Mum too!
I’m sure you do too 🙂
You rock! A great, positive list 🙂 #The List
This is a great post – you should turn it into a challenge! 🙂 #stayclassy
Ahah we might have to pick your brain on that x
Ah what a lovely post Pat – it is so nice to read something positive! 98% is amazing you are definitely a wonderful mother. It’s easy to focus on the things we want to improve on or that dreaded mummy guilt but actually we are all wonderful parents. I always think of that quote about how if you are asking the questions ‘am I a good parent?’ then you almost definitely are – because you care enough to wonder! #ablogginggoodtime
That’s a great quote Ellen. Thank you for your lovely comment x
Hi Patricia!
Happy to find you here 🙂 Gorgeous post, loved it. Most of us can relate to the post.
Also what a fab looking website!!!
Thank you.
I think we all need to remind ourselves that we’re good parents sometimes. It can be hard to remember this on the bad days, but my daughter is a happy, loving, curious toddler, so I must be doing something right. #ablogginggoodtime
That’s my point exactly. Thanks for your lovely comment x
I absolutely love this list! You’re right we should be focusing on how good we’re doing not berating outselves over the little things that semi like we’re not doing a good job. #stayclassymama
So lovely to actually take a look at the things we do right – there is so much self shaming that this is really refreshing to read. I’m glad you published this x
Thank you. That’s exactly why I wrote it. I’m not perfect, no one is in my book but we do a pretty good job at raising our children even if sometimes we
Doubt ourselves x
Oh I love this post and the gorgeous photos too. As mothers we can be so hard on ourselves and this list is perfect for reminding ourselves that actually we should be pretty proud because we achieve a lot!
Absolutely. We do and we have amazing kids to show for it x
A very positive post which I enjoyed reading. There’s nothing wrong with praising yourself. 🙂 #TribalLove
A brilliant post Pat, and I’m sure that a lot of Mothers can relate to each of your 10 points. I think that each one is so important to make our children feel loved and nurtured. It’s also lovely to see your face too. Claire x #triballove
Thank you Claire 🙂 I wanted to write this post because parenting is hard and we should be able to see what we do well and concentrate less on the bad moments.
Sounds like you are doing great. Definitely worth being proud of. I also think it’s important to teach manners and not be afraid to discipline when it’s needed. I see a lot of parents who try to be their kids best friend to the point that it backfires. Very much enjoyed the post! #TribalLove
Totally agree we should e their parent first x
98% is pretty damn good. I only really aim for 70% on a good day. You should be proud of yourself!
Ahah yes. My maths is a bit rubbish but I think they are happy most of the time 😉