Please, stop jumping off the sofa. You are going to get hurt. Please stop jumping off the sofa. I’m only going to tell you once more. PLEASE STOP JUMPING OFF THE SOFA! That’s it. I told you enough times now GO TO YOUR ROOM.
Does the above sound familiar? That is me ALMOST EVERY DAY. This is just a scenario and I could go on. Sometimes is the incessant screaming and crying for reasons I’m yet to discover, sometimes its the hiding to avoid getting dressed in the morning and sometimes its just the fact that it takes way more than 30 minutes to leave the house after everyone and everything is ready and we are all standing by the front door!
I really don’t want to lose it but sometimes the kids just seem to push and push until the cork pops and then there is no turning back. The problem is that when I do lose it the situation doesn’t get any better. In fact it normally escalates and gets a lot worse because now everyone is upset, frustrated and ready to throw in the towel.
Patience is certainly something I would like to have more of and so in an attempt to become a calmer and more patient parent I have been trying out the following:
5 Tips for Being a More Patient Parent
1. Get the camera and take a photo. It sounds a little crazy but getting my camera and documenting some the less glamorous and beautiful parenting moments really helps because it gives me an instant break from the situation and therefore I’m less likely to lose my patience.
2. Take deep breaths. Deep breathing is used in various relaxation techniques. Not only does it calm me down slightly but more importantly it buys me another few seconds to compose myself and keep my cool.
3. They are not doing it on purpose. This one is really hard sometimes because even though I know that most of the time they are just being kids and that being challenging is part of their psychological development it just feels like they are out to get you! But normally just saying it to myself helps me find that last little bit of patience.
4. Fake it. This is where my performance skills come in really handy. Sometimes when I feel like I’m about to lose my patience I just fake it and impersonate the most patient mother on the planet! I speak slowly, lower my voice and try really hard not to look mad.
5. Give yourself a break. I would love to be ‘perfect’ and never lose my patience but the truth is that is impossible. There are no ‘perfect’ parents and most of all we are only human. If we didn’t sometimes lose patience or even get really cross that would be strange. Some days will be better than others and the important thing is that you are trying your best. For me this works wonders because I don’t transfer my frustrations with myself onto the kids.
I hope you found this post interesting and helpful. I would love to hear what you think. Leave me a message below with your thoughts and any other tips.