Six Reasons why Home Birth was Right for Me

I love children and there was never a doubt in my mind that I would love nothing more than to be a mother. The only problem was my terrible phobia of hospitals and doctors.

When I became pregnant with my first son I was both filled with joy and terror because I just had no idea how I was going to be able to labour and give birth in a hospital. That was without any doubt my worst nightmare! My husband and I decided to look for alternatives and came across home birth. We attended some home birth group meetings and did a lot of research before finally deciding we were going to have our baby at home.

Now, I am aware that home birth isn’t for everyone and that some people are much better off giving birth in hospital but it was absolutely the best choice for us. Both of my pregnancies were very low risk, I was fit and very active and babies were doing great.

Here are my top 6 reasons for choosing to have a home birth (in no particular order).

6 Reasons to choose home birth

6 Reasons why Home Birth was Right for me

Control

The process of giving birth is completely unpredictable. We have to trust our body and the baby to do what they have been pre programmed to do. This in itself was a hard thing for me to come to terms with because I like control, I like to know what expect and I like to be prepared. With giving birth this is almost impossible if you wish to give birth naturally but  I wanted to be in control of birthing as much as possible. The midwifes were there only to support and gently guide me through birthing my baby. Not only I was in control of that, I was also in control of my surroundings and the people present at the birth

Privacy

This was very important to me as part of my phobia is about exactly that, the lack of privacy in hospitals. I didn’t want to be surrounded by strangers in a space that was alien to me. I wanted to feel safe, comfortable and relaxed in my own environment.

Comfort

There is nothing better than to be able to have a long relaxing shower in your own bathroom and then curl into your own bed with your husband and your brand new beautiful baby. Trust me, it’s absolute bliss.

Lower Chance Of Medical Intervention

Research suggests that if  you are in hospital there are more chances that you might need medical intervention during labour. At home there are no medical interventions. If for any reason there is a problem and labour is not progressing the way it should or if there is a problem with you and/or the baby you will be transferred to the hospital so that such interventions can take place. Luckily this did not happen with any of my home births.

Respect for our Wishes and Opinions

The first thing my midwifes did when they arrived and after checking the baby and I were ok was to read my birth plan. The second thing they did was to tell me they were there to help me and that they would always consult my husband and I should there be any decisions to be made in relation to the birth. For me this is gold and made me trust them even more.

Quality Of Care

I had both my children in the UK. Both my births were attended by two NHS midwifes. The first midwife stays with you from the moment you go into established labour and the second will arrive just before the baby is born. The reason 2 midwifes attend is so there is one midwife for the mother and one for the baby. At a busy hospital there is no chance you will get this amount of attention from your midwife because she will probably be looking after other labouring women.

I gave birth at home to both my son and daughter and I was lucky enough to have had an amazing experience both times. Would I do it again? Absolutely. Would I recommend it? Definitely.

What are your thoughts on home birth? Are you for or against? Did you or do you know anyone that had a planned home birth? Would love to hear your thoughts and stories.

Love, P

*Find out more about home birth:
NHS

Home Birth Reference Site
NCT

 

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65 comments

  1. I’m definitely in favour of home birth, but I was too unsure of myself to have one the first time and the second time the health boss were worried that the baby was small (he came out on his due date at 7lb 14oz after a three hours labour). I think if you have the option and you feel comfortable with it, there’s no reason why mothers shouldn’t choose home birth :).

  2. I had such a rough first pregnancy that I was terrified of something going wrong during the labour, but my labour was so easy and smooth I was sent home from the hospital the very same day after having a 7lb 13oz baby and 4 hour birth.
    Next time around I really would like a home water birth and reading your post makes me want it even more! Thank you xx

    1. That’s great. I really hope it works out well for you. My first son was a water birth but With my daughter I didn’t even have time to fill the birthing pool! Thank you for reading and the lovely comment. X

  3. Lovely post! I wanted a home birth with Mabel but was sent to hospital because my waters broke and 2 days later I still wasn’t really getting anywhere with my labour. I then found out that I had group b strep so I’ve had to be in hospital for Greta and Ernie but I would have really loved a home birth. With Greta I was home 8 hours after I went in, with Ernie I had to stay overnight and all the next day and I hated it.

  4. Lovely to read your experiences and how you made a decision about your birth that was right for you. I had an independent midwife (two for the birth like NHS) first time and I’ve got the same one this time…for me the continuity of care and ability to make decisions with someone I trusted wherever I birthed was paramount – the where caused me some confusion. I was seriously anxious about birth and I really didn’t want to go to hospital but was niggly scared about not being in hospital! I really left making a decision with my first I think until I went into labour…my midwife was very much of the attitude that we can go into hospital if I wanted whenever I wanted. It’s easier to go in from home than come home from hospital. When it all started i wanted to stay at home…26 lovely hours at home and then a transfer to hospital was required. In hindsight I had probably made my homebirth decision before labour…I was much more prepared for a homebirth with all the gear – my hospital bag was seriously lacking!! Particularly for a 3 day stay, ugh. This time I’m hoping to stay at home for the duration if all is well. So nice to read that it all worked out well for you, I might be coming to you with questions closer to the time! Lucy x

  5. I considered a home birth as, like you, I have a phobia of hospitals. I decided in the end that it would be worse for me to have to be blue lighted if something went wrong though as this would probably send me into a full scale freak out and as it happened it was the right choice for me. J was stuck and I ended up having a spinal. I would consider a home birth if I was going to have another though.

  6. Looking forward to another home birth in less than two months! I absolutely agree with you on your reasons for why you and your husband chose to birth at home, and I especially loved that sacred first day cuddling in the bed as a family. (If you are interested you can find my daughter’s birth story on my blog.) Thanks for sharing and many blessings to your family.

  7. I had hospital birth for my boy. And I had epidural too. I don’t know, I was too scared I guess. I knew I could take the pain but I got scared last minute. That’s why I wished my mother was there she could have helped me. For my second, I promise I would never take epidural. My mother was a midwife in the Philippines for over 20 years before we moved to the States. I remember I was like 3 or 4 she brought me to this little clinic where she works to help poor pregnant mothers who cannot afford a hospital birth. I witnessed my first birth in person. I want a midwife for my second baby. And if my body is healthy enough for a home birth, then I will do it.

  8. Love your story. Thanks for sharing. I am completely for a home birth! Our first was at a hospital for the comfort of my husband but I was able to give birth naturally and I am for sure doing a home birth the second time around.

    1. That’s great. Giving birth at home really puts a lot of pressure on our partners and my husband needed a bit of pursuing but he knew it would be the best for me and by the time we had our second he was completely comfortable with it. Thanks for reading.

  9. Sounds like both births were fantastic and I love the idea of a home birth. I had a good labour but poor after care and really didn’t like the waiting around for checks and injections (I’m RH negative blood) so next time around we are really considering home birth as an option. Thanks for sharing X #bigpinklink

      1. No worries, a great positive post 🙂 I really think it’s a good option for us now, as having a little one already makes it harder to be away! Also the ease of the afterbirth sounds ideal! Also previously we were living with my parents so would have made it harder whereas now we have our own home and I can already picture where we would put it all X

  10. I’m so pleased you had such a good experience both times. I didn’t consider a home birth first time around, as I was pretty terrified of labour and for me I wanted the reassurance of the doctors and midwives there, and to know that I was in the hospital should anything happen. But my birth was smooth, and very quick, and the midwives suggested I consider a home birth if I have another baby. I would be under consultant care for the pregnancy, but once past a certain point then I should be able to switch, so I think it would be an option. I like the idea of being at home afterwards, rather than on a hospital ward, which I found pretty lonely. #bigpinklink

    1. Thanks you so much for the kind comment. I really hope everything goes well for you next time and that you get to have the home birth that you want. If you ever need any more info or contacts/tips let me know. Will be happy to help x

  11. This was a great article! I had my daughter in the hospital because I was too nervous to do a home birth. I now feel like have a lot more insight on the option!

    I emailed you earlier this week about doing a blogger profile on White Camellias if you are interested. I would email you a few simple questions and create a post on my blog about it. Let me know if you are interested! 🙂

  12. I’m so glad that you managed to have the birth you wanted and a positive experience with both babies, it sounds like there are a lot of positives with having a home birth, especially for those that are nervous about being in hospital. I personally (and this is only my opinion) wouldn’t want a home birth just in case anything went wrong. A home birth for me is out of the question due to a previous induction and emergency C-section 🙁 But they are fantastic for some people and it certainly sounds like the right decision for you Claire x #bigpinklink

  13. I found this really interesting. A friend of mine just had a home birth which she was so happy with. I like the idea of it but I think I would be too nervous as I had interventions with my first and both of my sisters had quite complicated births with all of their kids! It sounds like it was great though. #bigpinklink

    1. Thank you for your comment Ellen. It was really great in my situation but If you feel anxious our scared you should definitely go with your instinct and have the baby at the hospital. Whichever makes you feel safer and happier.

  14. This is a great read, I am always interested to hear about other people birth stories. I was not brave eight to have a home birth (it nearly was – but not by choice, just two very quick labours) but unfortunately both my babies came early so even if I had wanted to I wouldn’t have been able to. But for all the reasons you mention are the reasons I would have liked to have had a home birth. I think the NHS are pushing for more home births now, that and in midwife led only units which strikes me as a happy medium between home and hospital. Glad everything went so well for you xx #bigoinklink

  15. I’m so glad that you had 2 births that went how you wanted, and both at home!! My neighbour has had 3 successful home births, but she is the only person I know who has had any! She’s loved every single birth, and said she enjoyed the experience so much, she would do it again! I used to be a nurse, so I was really comfortable with hospitals, medical equipment, medical staff etc! I wanted to be in hospital the first time around, and even if I’d tried a home birth, I would’ve ended up in hospital anyway, as I had loads of complications. I almost went for it the second time around, and had my house risk assessed, and borrowed a pool. But I was eventually put off by being told there was only an hours worth of gas and air available…! I’d used it for hours with my first labour, and found it a life saver, and didn’t think I could do it with only an hours worth! Anyway, I ended up in a brand new, beautiful birthing centre, which was like a home from home! It was tiny, with only 4 beds, and I had a huge room with a pool, and double bed so that my husband could stay afterwards. It was a really great experience!! I think that anyone who wants a home birth should try it, like you said, you can always be transferred if necessary!
    Thanks for sharing with #bigpinklink!

  16. Ah I would love to have a home birth. I was contemplating having a home birth as my sister recommended it (she had her daughter at home in a birthing pool). I decided to go for an ‘in-between’ option and have my son in a birth centre, BOY did that go wrong! I think Number 4 really resonates with me because if I had been at home I don’t think I would have had as much medical intervention. And that flows really well into number 5 as well, the midwives did not listen to anything my husband asked and nobody read the birth plan. Thanks for linking up with #StayClassy!

  17. Actually, I have thought about home birth, but in Germany it’s not allow to have birth at home. Even we can’t homeschool our children here. Maybe I should consider to go to UK for continuing my study 😀

  18. It looks like you had a really positive experience with home birth… and twice! That’s amazing. The idea of home birth is so appealing… especially when it comes to privacy, comfort and being able to have support after baby arrives. #bloggerclubuk

  19. This sounds like an amazing experience. It’s wonderful that the midwife took your birth plan seriously & that you were able to stay in the comfort of your own home. Thanks so much for joining us for #bloggerclubuk, hope you will be back again tomorrow! x

  20. Pat I had both of my kids in Holland and it is very much the norm here to have a home birth. I agree with all the points you make particularly feeling in control and the privacy. Unfortunately for me I never got to experience this because I had pre-eclampsia so ended up with hospital births (induced) twice. What a brilliant birth experience being able to have your children in your own home. Thanks for sharing with #FamilyFun ❤️

  21. So glad that you had two wonderful home birth experiences. I wanted a home birth with Jessica for all of the reasons you set out – but after finding out about her heart defect at the 20 week scan, it was never going to be on the cards. I still vividly remember walking out of the hospital having just had that scan and my husband turning around to me and saying “well, there goes your home birth” – it was the last thing I cared about at that point! I did have a very positive hospital birth experience though with midwives that I knew (one of them had been my mentor when I was a student midwife). Second time around I had a lovely home waterbirth with two independent midwife friends who I’d worked with back when I was an independent midwife. I felt safe and secure at home – they knew me and respected my privacy and my need for a calm, quiet birthing environment and most of the time it really just felt like it was just me and my husband – with Jessica popping her head in every now and then to see what Mummy was doing. The best part was Jessica being able to meet her baby sister within minutes of her arrival and then being able to snuggle down in my own bed after it all. #FamilyFun #triballove

  22. I totally admire women that home birth. I did consider it, and like you I have a fear of hospitals. But in the end I opted for going in because I hate to say it was worried about any mess at home! Lol! In the end I would have been transferred anyway because of my blood pressure being really high. It was a great experience though. #familyfun

    1. So nice to hear you have a good birth experience. Funny enough there was never too much mess after the births only a fair bit of washing to do. The midwifes clean up everything and take away the rubbish. Amazing really x

  23. i have a phobia around being sick and i too was incredibly anxious about being in control as much as possible. because of the phobia i didn’t think id ever have a child. im so pleased you got the home birth you wanted and both babies arrived safely. xx

  24. That is a really positive list that I’m sure many others will find useful when considering a home birth. I was absolutely terrified of giving birth, and it turns out with good reason as my first was horrific! Also for me, living in Africa it was not something I even considered as the hospitals are all too far away in case of an unexpected emergency.
    #stayclassymama

  25. Such a positive and interesting post. I had problems in my first pregnancy and then had to have a hospital birth, because of this i chose to have a hospital birth for my second and it was lucky i did as I had complications and if id been at home would have been difficult. For all the reasons you have outlined i like the sound of a home birth and feel like if its possible then would be great – especially your own bed afterwards bliss! #StayClassyMama

  26. You are very brave to do it at home! I was too scared and wanted as many doctors around as possible, but I can see that that’s not for everyone. Glad it worked out for you though #stayclassymama

  27. My phobia was just the opposite – the labour pains!!! So I wanted the epidural (which I got). But I have immense respect for all the mums who go through labour with no painkillers. Will agree though that the home birth experience is more personal, and memorable. Glad you had a nice experience.
    #StayClassyMama

  28. I love the idea of being able to shower and crawl into your own bed post-labour, that really does sound like bliss. I never really considered home birth, and in truth I don’t really know why! Reading this, if we were to ever have any more I would definitely consider it! #stayclassymama

  29. I admire those who have home births and yet for me, it wasn’t an option. With my first I just did what I assumed was “Normal”, and I had him at a really lovely midwife birthing unit which was a lovely experience. My other four were all inductions and due to being high risk and consultant led, I was in a hospital and the youngest three in ICU, so there was never an option for anything other. #stayclassymama

  30. My friend had a home birth and said it was wonderful, but she’s the only other person I know who’s had one. Thank you for sharing this, it’s absolutely fascinating.

  31. This is so interesting – I’m glad it was such a positive experience for you. I never considered a home birth because I live in a rented flat – not sure my landlord would be happy about my birthing on her floor! Also I have a really annoying cat who would get in the middle of everything. #stayclassymama

  32. Good for you. Everybody should be made aware of all their options. My wife had to be induced, so this wouldn’t have worked for us, but I also think that this is much more discouraged here in the States. I’m sure it’s all about the money #stayclassy

  33. Great post for anyone considering a home birth. I know a few people who have had them and apart from my horror at the mess (I am assured a few plastic sheets are all you need) I think it sounds a convenient option. It wasn’t one for me due to medical reasons, but reading your point about medical intervention made me think, if I could have done a home birth maybe I could have escaped that dreaded episiotomy! #stayclassymama

  34. I really wanted to have a home birth but I kept having flashes of my cats trying to get involved – potentially getting in the pool or puncturing it and it would end up getting on my nerves in the throws of labour and if anything was to happen badly id be sitting at home watching tele and get a flashback so i chose to go to hospital. plus if there was any complications then it could get dealt with quickly. luckily i did go in as Ben couldnt breathe on his own so he was in the best place as soon as he was born.
    so glad you had a brilliant experience for both births! #stayclassymama

  35. I share your fear of hospitals and I had the same anxiety. But for us a home birth was not an option as Peachy turned out to be a breach baby. I must say though that once we were admitted, we were actually quite comfortable and the birthing suites are quite private. We did upgrade to a private room for our stay after Peachy was born and it was a large, private, and comfortable room with a bathroom and a bed for my husband. Not quite as cozy as being at home but not nearly as bad as I expected. #StayClassyMama

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