This post has been due for a very long time but, to be honest, being a stay at home mother is so new to me I had to get my head around it first before I could translate it into words.
I have always worked or studied or both and after having my first child, I went back to work full time like so many other mothers. I am the kind of person that always says I want a relaxed and stress free kind of life but that deep down thrives on working hard and having a full schedule. So, when the idea to move to Porto (for a few years) came about and my husband suggested I take some time off work and enjoy spending time with the children, I felt both happy and terrified at the prospect of being a stay at home mother.
What if I wasn’t good at it? What if I got bored? What if I felt lonely? Are the kids going to develop enough skills at home? Will I be a good role model to them? what about my career that I worked so hard to build? The questions were endless and they continue to creep up now and then.
The idea became reality and here I am, 10 months later… I’M A STAY AT HOME MOTHER! (for now). So far, these are my top pros as cons of being at home with the kids.
Playing peek-a-boo and catch for hours on end.
Watching them develop into little human beings and watch their little brains try to make sense of the world around them.
Spending time playing outdoors and looking for crabs and pretty pebbles by the sea.
Cuddling on the sofa and reading whenever we feel like it.
Look after the children when they are unwell without feeling guilty for not going to work.
I can’t remember last time I was able to use the bathroom on my own and that includes taking a shower without my lovely angels trying to get in there with me.
If I didn’t have my family around all the time I would definitely feel lonely and isolated.
Even though I know it is important to have ‘me time’ and do something completely unrelated with being a mother, it’s easy to get absorbed by the children’s needs and forget about myself.
Having to deal with tantrums 24/7.
For now this arrangement works for us and I’m happy with my choice. We will see how I feel in a few years when it’s time for the little one to go to school!
Are you a stay at home mother? How do you feel about it? I would love to hear your story.